When “Normal” Doesn’t Feel Right

When “Normal” Doesn’t Feel Right

Given the recent devastation, loss, and confusion for many of us in the Santa Barbara area, it’s hard to imagine getting back into “normal” life. Here are some reminders to help: 1. Go easy on yourself; practice self compassion. One way to do this is by...
All Things New

All Things New

It’s that time of year – the morning air is crisp, the quality of sunlight somehow different, and sunset comes noticeably earlier than only a week ago.  These harbingers of Fall signal we are in “back-to-school” mode.  In that spirit, this post is for all students...
Small Steps, Big Picture

Small Steps, Big Picture

At the beginning of each new year I examine five areas of my life, asking and answering a question in each: Interpersonal (think relationships!) – How (and who!) can I love better?Intrapersonal – In what area I can grow in emotionally?Spiritually – How may I serve God...
Rethinking Love: From Alone to Chosen

Rethinking Love: From Alone to Chosen

“For the first time in my life, someone chose me.” I was both sobered and struck by Melissa’s comment. She, on the other hand, didn’t miss a beat. She continued talking about her boyfriend, namely her frustrations. “So I’m stuck. Maybe I should give him another chance...
10 Rules to Love By

10 Rules to Love By

“Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. Love protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres…” Love is all around us. One google search yields 3,940,000,000 results on love. Love isubiquitous. Yet we don’t...
Love Truths

Love Truths

“Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love…” We all want to be loved. We long for it. We dream about it. We live for it. And we are wired for it. But more than ever before we seem to be in the dark about how to create...